Eating is an activity that everyone not on a feeding tube must do, so when looking for ways to connect with those who experience eroticized same-sex attraction, it’s an opportunity common to both of you. Connecting one-on-one is significantly easier than connecting in a group, so a 1-to-1 meal can be a good on-ramp for developing other connections. I suggest lunch first, then something like dinner. During a meal, you can get to know someone better, to get some ideas for where to go next.