Commonly, in childhood our parents have the most influence on how we see ourselves, others & God for good & bad. In some men’s lives, other custodian/authority figures have a more significant impact. But emotional wounds come not just from people who love us, but also from others we seek to love. Our peers can have as much of an impact on us as our parents. God has set up specific responsibilities for parents, and it’s easy for parents with very good intentions to go very wrong in our corrupted culture. Far in contrast to ‘blaming’ our parents, we seek to help men find the true root of their wounds, and seek reconciliation when it is possible & beneficial, whether that is with parents, other childhood authority figures, peers, etc… Reconciling a relationship with a parent is always God-honoring, though not always humanly possible. Pretending problems didn’t happen does not lead to a Biblical model for reconciliation.